Love of your loved ones

Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek & find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it

The first line probably doesn't make much sense now, but i am sure it will when you have finished reading this post.

In any of the relationships i have had till now, its never been that the other person has been expressive about their love and care. I am generally a very frank and expressive person and so initially it was really difficult for me to understand people around me - my parents, my friends and everyone else... i would never be able to feel the other person's affection for me and i would be upset about it. I always used to feel very bad that when i could show my love and care for someone, why am not it getting it back from anyone??? I used to doubt whether they truly like me or not... why is it that i was left to feel so lonely all the time???

I used to console myself that may be i was just meant to brood over it this way and i could not come out of it. Sometimes i got very angry but that did not help. It just made things worse and i was almost going to lose one of my dear friends. Even after that i never realised what is the mistake. But later on the truth dawned upon me .... since i was always on the look out for the visible signs of care i failed to see those invisible ones which always existed. In every small thing that the other person does for you the affection is there. Every moment in which you just exist in their thoughts, it means they LOVE you. Each and every person's emotional feelings and the way they express it is very different. We have to accept this and once this sinks in, you can feel the love the person has for you even when they don't say it.The immense joy and happiness this feeling will bring you is truly indescribable. I have felt it and i hope each of you will feel it definitely one day if you haven't already!!

laksh:)

Ripple effect !!

When you throw a stone into a still pond, the ripples that it creates brings some movement and life back into that place. Similarly an idle mind is kindled by some discussion or argument one has, which sets the thought process going....
this post is a realization because of my thoughts that was set into motion by my loving bro!!

i happened to discuss with him about how you think that, a person is doing something for you but in the end you realise they were doing it for their personal benefits. How 'selfish' they had been and you have been ignorant of it all the while... you feel hurt when you come to know of it in the end. But he questioned me back saying, " Who in this world is not selfish?? Everyone always does something because they are getting something out of it." Initially i thought he was talking about it in the sense that, How we often say of the present world where people are driven by material gains and fail to give importance to human values and emotions.

But he said that its not just got to do with such kind of people alone. But that's how EVERYONE are !!! I was a little perplexed. i din't quite understand what he meant by that. I couldn't imagine how everyone could be selfish. Isn't that supposed to be a not so good virtue, that we have been taught from our childhood, in our so called 'moral science' classes !! then how it could be possible that there is not one person in this world who does something for others. To add further to my confusion he said, there is no such word called "selflessness" !!! it is a farce.. just doesn't exist....

This actually enraged me and and i hit him back strongly, this is definitely not true. Then there is no meaning for the works done by great people like Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa. I was arguing that he was wrong. But he just calmly replied "think about it !! " and left. This set an intellectual (!!??) search and the discovery of the truth in the end was really pleasant. I realised that behind every act of a man there is some personal motive that one wants to achieve. It is like in Maslow's hierachy of needs - especially the higher order needs. ( C'mon people i am a management student !! :-P )We seek personal satisfaction in everything we do and there is nothing wrong in it. Its the same with even Mother Teresa. I am not trying to undermine her greatness. She did serve countless poor and homeless people. But she did that because she derived personal satisfaction out of it. So there is definitely nothing wrong in doing something for yourself.

But the difference lies in the aspect that, when one tries to achieve something at the cost of someone's efforts or life. This is where it crosses limits and turns bad. So behind every act of a human, if you look deep inside, you can find the real motive that he is trying to satisfy. In the end the act doesn't count but the thought matters !!!

Ripples to be continued ......

Everlasting truths.....

Sometimes you may get insecure in a relationship. It is only because of letting fear into the relationship. When fear comes in place of trust, everything else is shaken. Every situation can be seen from both a negative and positive perspectives. And when you constantly see only the negative view, thats when the demon of fear and doubt creeps in, weakening the very base of the relationship. You fear that you lose the relationship and being constantly in that worry you forget to enjoy the present moment you have got to spend with them ....

Whenever you get such doubts drive it away with that one word which is the only reason we are still sticking onto this world filled with evils - HOPE !!
Just hope that things will get better
Just hope that the dawn that awaits will bring with it happiness and peace
Just hope that your relationship is going to last forever....

Drive away the demon of fear with FAITH !!
You can call it in any name; be it trust or belief...its power is really immense. You will be able to appreciate it best only when you have felt it. The wonders that unquestioning faith which one places in a person or on the relationship is amazing. It can carry it through any sea of troubles.

And above all this ....

There are in the end three things that last...
Faith, Hope and Love
And the greatest of these

LOVE

What hope and faith cant get you, definitely Love can !!!
The purest of love will bring with it an intense emotional attachment with the other person which will forever forge the bonds of the relationship so strong and make it unbreakable for eternity..........

laksh:)