Words are definitely powerful... but not stronger than the human mind !!!

Retold from The Alchemist ....
" the Arab alchemist who was drinking wine, offered some to the protagonist... He asks him 'isnt wine prohibited in your country ?' (as per their religion)....the alchemist replies...
'its not what goes into the mouth which is evil .. but what comes out' ... "

How true can that be .. even when i read those lines for the first time ... the reality and depth of the meaning struck me hard..because this society thinks ill of those who drink(/smoke??!!) ... but the truth is that there may be much more better and well behaved gentlemen (women??!!) among them....

i have myself seen people who speak such ill of others in a way which is so demeaning. they spew out venom - the most poisonous of all one could find in this world - when they speak. The words are spoken so that to deliberately humiliate or disrespect the other person...

But i truly believe that every emotion one faces in life is something which only you control entirely... be it anything like happiness, sadness, guilt, shame, dishonour, anger, satisfaction, humiliation.....All of this is something which people always complain or attribute to something external, like for eg:what someone says/does hurts you sometimes, something happens which makes you happy...
but the truth is that more often people(including me !!) fail to realise that it is you who decide everything in your life... if you decided that you are not going to be disturbed by whatever happens around you; your not going to get hurt/angry; even when the other person does it intentionally/unintentionally !!!!

This is one such irony in life - where you think everything that happens to you is 'cause of what happens outside but the reality is that the control lies entirely in your hands ... when you get this realisation about life you can get that true peace in your heart!!!

There are many such ironies that are filled in this world around us and this is what i am going to explore in my next post ... look out for it !!!!


Irony(ies) of life !!!

In one of the lectures when i was sitting and idling around, not listening ( which happens often !!)... i decided that i will write my next blog on this topic "Irony of life"... And i just wrote this on my note book, when my friend who was sitting next to me wrote the best lines possible which will very aptly form the beginning of this blog!!!

The irony of life is that ... " You have to live through life through it to know about it ... But the day you learn about your life is the day your life ends :-) "

I cant tell you the feeling when i read those lines !! so amazingly true....
and i suddenly decided to explore many such ironies that are filled in the world around us. With a lot of inputs from various sources... here s what i have come up with ....

* Every time when you are doomed by difficulties and failures.. you turn to God and cry " why me ?? " .... but why is that we never do the same when we are in the most happiest of moments ?? !!

* Only a loser in any game would say that ...'participating is more important than winning' but never a winner !!!

* when you keep chasing something you never get it ... but just when you stop focussing on it, it starts chasing you !!

* The more we feel we are in control of things, the farther off we are from controlling anything..

* Battles that go on longer than necessary end up destroying the enthusiasm necessary for later reconstruction.

* Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.

* You need to think more, not to answer a question, but to ask one.

* life will always teach u lessons through 3 ways - disappointment, despair and defeat

ps - this is obviously not an exhaustive one ... friends are welcome to add more !!

Crazy mind

Sometimes what our loved ones do might really hurt us .. but it was never intentional on their part too.. Even though you know about it you are not able to forgive them and move on... Our heart sticks onto such bad memories very easily but fails to remember the good ones...Why is this so ???

Situational interpretations of some thing which might otherwise have been perfectly normal really make us feel bad... At that moment if we lose our temper and say something which we may repent later..its the worse thing that can happen to anyone ...

Words are like arrows .. once it leaves the bow it can't be take back !!

Often i feel as though i am caught entangled in a web of emotions.. not able to relish any of them fully...all of us wish and pray for more happier moments in life.. but i am caught thinking only about any problem or disagreement that might arise which might hurt me more...
am i confusing myself ???

If you have something bitter and then immediately have something sweet ... you tend to feel as though the sweetness has increased and as if it melts in your mouth. This is exactly the essence of life. When we are surrounded by miseries the smallest smile that someone can bring on your face is of such great help that you start valuing it so much !!!

The true feeling of happiness is realised only among the disappointments in life.... Similarly the importance of life is only because of death ... people often say that they want to do something purposeful before they die. Life itself has a meaning only because of death.
Death once said " I will touch you, but you don't know when...therefore live life as intensely as you can"


(ps - from what i actually started writing about, never did i think i ll be finishing it with such philosophical thoughts.. thats exactly 'cause of my really really crazy mind !!! )