Together .. through the waters

Like a rocking boat our journey began,
stuck at the shore afraid of the seas.

Sailing through the highs and lows on the waves,
seeking the rhythm of life.

Wandering about from one island to another,
trying to anchor amidst different terrains;

We found our peace in the flutter of the seas,
rather than the calm of the coast.

The eternal truth has dawned on me;
the joy lies in the journey not the destination.

What is your thought of the year

I read this question on Quora, and kept thinking for a while what would be the answer if i were to write one for it...

Empathy beats Ego…

This thought has come on and off in my head through the year. And I am trying to reinforce it in my life especially when I am at the end of the year, when I am having to go through difficult situations in life.

When you think of what the words actually mean; the problem of ego is a by product of being selfish by nature. Yes, we all are selfish all the time. I believe that the word selfless doesn't really mean anything and is kind of an oxymoron. Mostl people of the society think of only themselves and their family within the ambit of the 'self', whereas some extraordinary souls thought of the entire society within their self. They were able to see one of their own in the other person who is suffering in life. Hence, they had no second thoughts to help others in need. (I have written already on this and again reinforcing to myself - read here)

That exactly is what the word empathy means, you put yourself in others’ shoes and try to feel the pain. Well, I am neither trying to become Mother Teresa nor advising you to become one. But just think through it, you could avoid so many tiffs with may be a friend of yours or your partner, your mother in law or your colleague; maybe anyone only if you could realise that more than half of the problems in life exists only in our minds. The words that you speak in anger can cause irreversible change of the perception of you in the other person’s mind.

So always apply this thumb rule before you could react in adverse situations; why is the other person doing what they have done? how would you have reacted if you were to go through the same?

A little Empathy can beat the Ego in you to save most relationships.

Travel.. Traverse..Transcend

When i decided to resume writing my blog after an almost 5 year hiatus, i had promised myself that i must write at least once in a month. Well i already missed two months, but i am maintaining the photo blog as well in tandem. So i kind of console myself that I am not out of touch completely. "" here is the proof !!

It takes much lesser effort in these because the major work i.e. capturing the beautiful images is taken care of by my husband. I do only the part of glorifying them in the easy to make templates of Adobe Slate (if you haven’t tried them I suggest you should, it is a wonderful medium to showcase your stories and easy at that too!). It started once when we were joking amongst ourselves that there should be a way where we can combine my love for writing and his passion for photography. And Voila! Thus was discovered Adobe slate. Guess I have promoted enough of Adobe on a Google product. This was not the intention when I began writing today.

There is a 3rd dimension to this thing which holds the key – the love for travel of my husband! 

Because of which all this has been possible. We haven’t explored a lot of places but the ones that we have been together have been very memorable so far. We have had our fair share of adventures and misadventures; joys and troubles and still managed to have fun all through it. He has been my travel buddy in every true sense. I wasn’t so much an outdoor person, but from when he has come into my life, I have seen, lived and experienced six different cities in India and also made our first trip abroad together.

I have grown up all my life in my hometown Chennai! It’s not that I haven’t been to places outside my home. I have been to a lot of places in South India, mostly with family on religious endeavors and a few times with friends. But I have merely gone there but not explored the place or culture or food. This has changed so much now. At the outset of every journey he would make thorough research about the various places to visit and all the different cuisines we shouldn’t miss (of course the food has the priority :P) "".

I have had the good fortune to enjoy all this with him everywhere (he has no choice now anyway ;)) we have been to. Thanks to all his efforts, I get to have all the fun (Ha ha :D). But on a serious note it has opened a new perspective in me truly. Differences in people, languages, cultures, cuisines have ceased to exist. They are merely various manifestations of the humanity at large. You get this amazing feeling of transcending the boundaries of the states and countries and still feel at home (but yeah the national and international roaming hurts a little... I work in the telecom sector now :P). I am beginning to realize how much I have missed these things in life and how blessed I am to enjoy all this forever in my life now!!