Positive Negative ... Negative Positive

What is the first thing that came to your mind after you read the title!???
Was it about blood type .. O+ ..B- ..AB+ .... ??
Was it about Batteries ... magnets ... physics .. ??
Well .. Google predictions asked me if it is pregnancy test ... ohh please not you too Google !!

I am giving no science lessons here, but I wonder if it could be really a part of science. If you had already seen the image below, obviously you would guessed in the first place that this is about the THOUGHTs in your mind.

What is a thought? By definition, we know that it is the outcome of the process or act of thinking. It is what happens as a result of appropriate functioning of the neural network inside your brain, i.e. it literally is the brainchild. Hence, obviously by its nature a thought cannot have an attribute of being positive or negative. The emotions or the results that these so called thoughts create in our lives is what gives them this aspect. This is very true because, a thought about something could be positive for one and negative for the other, as the way it affects each one of us is different. For example, the thought of me having an independent carefree life away from my parents would be a positive one for me, but a worrying one for them.

So if thoughts are mere signals from the electric impulses, how do they derive power. I am not sure if anyone has a proven answer to that. But I feel that they do have some element of cosmic energy to it. We are able to harness the energy out of a thought to motivate ourselves, and that translates into action. We derive satisfaction from that, even if the results are not favorable to us.

I am a 'better safe than be sorry' kind of a person to an extreme extent, almost to the extent of being paranoid about it. So in every situation I face in life, I imagine a hundred things that could go wrong and always be prepared for it. That means, I am surrounded by negative thoughts a lot of times, but my strong belief of being prepared for it means, I know it will not happen as well. My negative thoughts are countered by more strong positive beliefs. But what happens when the same logic works in reverse; it is a disaster. The positive thoughts that should drive me towards new things I want in life are stopped by my fear of change.

Have you read or heard about the book 'The Secret' (After having sold millions of copies, it is not actually a secret any longer though). It talks of the same fundamental philosophy that, your thoughts are what make your life. Even though there are a lot of critics who are against this, I do believe majorly in this ideology. Always be aware and conscious of your thoughts. Don't let anything in this world shake your positive energies.

Together .. through the waters

Like a rocking boat our journey began,
stuck at the shore afraid of the seas.

Sailing through the highs and lows on the waves,
seeking the rhythm of life.

Wandering about from one island to another,
trying to anchor amidst different terrains;

We found our peace in the flutter of the seas,
rather than the calm of the coast.

The eternal truth has dawned on me;
the joy lies in the journey not the destination.

What is your thought of the year

I read this question on Quora, and kept thinking for a while what would be the answer if i were to write one for it...

Empathy beats Ego…

This thought has come on and off in my head through the year. And I am trying to reinforce it in my life especially when I am at the end of the year, when I am having to go through difficult situations in life.

When you think of what the words actually mean; the problem of ego is a by product of being selfish by nature. Yes, we all are selfish all the time. I believe that the word selfless doesn't really mean anything and is kind of an oxymoron. Mostl people of the society think of only themselves and their family within the ambit of the 'self', whereas some extraordinary souls thought of the entire society within their self. They were able to see one of their own in the other person who is suffering in life. Hence, they had no second thoughts to help others in need. (I have written already on this and again reinforcing to myself - read here)

That exactly is what the word empathy means, you put yourself in others’ shoes and try to feel the pain. Well, I am neither trying to become Mother Teresa nor advising you to become one. But just think through it, you could avoid so many tiffs with may be a friend of yours or your partner, your mother in law or your colleague; maybe anyone only if you could realise that more than half of the problems in life exists only in our minds. The words that you speak in anger can cause irreversible change of the perception of you in the other person’s mind.

So always apply this thumb rule before you could react in adverse situations; why is the other person doing what they have done? how would you have reacted if you were to go through the same?

A little Empathy can beat the Ego in you to save most relationships.